New Year, New You?
Updated: Jan 17, 2019
Is it really a new year, new you? Or maybe it's a new year, same you with more discipline and drive to actually achieve your goals? Which one are you?
It is a new year with new opportunities. If you made resolutions, there is a possibility that you have already become a little relaxed in accomplishing your goals by the deadline. According to a University of Scranton study, only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s Resolutions, which means that 92% of people don’t. Whew! Which percentage do you think you’re apart of?
I stopped making resolutions several years ago as I discovered that I was using the “New Year” to finally tackle that longstanding “goal” that I changed the “due date” on throughout the previous years.
I don’t want to make you feel guilty because you consistently don’t achieve New Year’s Resolutions. Conversely, I want to encourage you to do a deeper dive in identifying why you did not achieve those goals in the previous year. You have the answers and can get to them by answering a few questions:
1. What resolutions did you set the year prior that you did not achieve?
2. Why did you not achieve those resolutions?
3. Have you had resolutions for multiple years that you did not achieve?
4. Where else in your life is this behavior manifested?
5. What did you believe would be different about this year when you made the resolution(s)?
By answering these questions honestly, you will begin to identify the barriers to not achieving your resolutions.
A new year doesn’t bring a guarantee that a goal will be accomplished. A new year brings an emotional stimulus that fades as quickly as the ‘New Year’.
You may have to read that one ^ a second time. In order to achieve any goal, dedication and commitment are required when it is most inconvenient. More than likely, when the going got tough, the commitment to achieve the resolutions faded. A new year will not make it easier to achieve resolutions; it just provides mental and emotional stimulation.
Do not dwell on how many times you made a resolution and did not keep it. I learned in an undergrad psychology class that the repeated attempts will eventually prove successful. Rather than dwell on where you were unsuccessful, answer those questions and identify the root causes. Perhaps your resolutions are too ambitious. Perhaps you are not committed to the resolution. Perhaps you don’t see yourself as worthy enough to achieve ultimate success.
One thing you must know (and that I will ALWAYS say) – you are enough! Push yourself to be a better you -- not because you are insufficient but because you deserve to be the very best that you can be!