Fear – (v.) to be afraid of (someone or something) as likely to be dangerous, painful, or threatening(Google definition).
We all experience it at some point or another. It can cause us to experience physical, mental, and emotional reactions to something that is often perceived. Often times, fear can be stifling. Think about it, when a body builder is training for a competition, he/she must push through the pain and literally tear down those weak muscles in order to build bigger, stronger muscles. Your courage muscles are very similar in this way. Pushing through the emotion of fear to pursue that ‘thing’ of which you are afraid will increase your courage muscles – which in turn, makes you bigger, bolder, and stronger.
Last year, I had an opportunity to compete for a consulting contract. For whatever reason, I was intimidated (root cause) which manifested as fear to submit a proposal for consideration. When challenged by my colleague, I began to regurgitate a ton of excuses as to why I should not compete. Hearing myself utter such BS made me embarrassed at myself. Further, I felt like such a hypocrite as I encourage people to go after their dreams. “Live your best life!” “Go for your dreams!” “Do what makes you happy!” – All quotes you’ll hear coming out of my mouth on the daily and yet, here I was allowing my fear to keep me from doing just that. I was afraid to submit a proposal for a specific kind of work that I have done for decades.
Long story, short - I pushed through my fear and submitted the proposal. Yes, I secured the opportunity.
Being afraid is ok. In fact, it is normal – it’s what makes us human.
When you feel those moments of fear, ask yourself what is the worst that could happen? Chances are, you will realize that your fear is an unjustified attempt to stop you from expanding into a greater you! Don’t allow the fear to stop you from proceeding. Feel the fear! Face the fear! Push through despite the fear! Once you take on the fear you will accomplish more than what you thought was possible! You are enough. Push yourself to be a better you -- not because you are insufficient but because you deserve to be the very best that you can be!