Celebrated! Or Tolerated?
We teach people how to treat us by what we accept.
I spent a great deal of time trying to convince people that I was worthy of their love. Without intention, I taught people that it was acceptable to tolerate me rather than celebrate me. It was as if I had a moniker that screamed, “Tolerate me and eventually you will celebrate me.” This is not an acceptable mindset! I endured so much heartbreak because of it. It took many years for me to realize the error of my ways. The sooner that you realize your sufficiency, the sooner your tribe will find you. No one should ever have to prove their worth for people to accept them.
You are always enough. You are valuable and unique as you.
It does not mean that you are without error. Nor does it mean that you are without areas for growth and improvement. You are, however, enough just as you! Dependent upon your comfort level with being tolerated, you may have to make some changes and will likely experience a range of emotions. On one end of the spectrum, you:
might experience loneliness as you are more intentional about surrounding yourself with people who celebrate you, and
might experience sadness as you realize the degree of relationships you have with people who tolerate you rather than celebrate you.
On the other end of the spectrum, you:
might experience greater peace and contentment as a result of not distributing so much energy to accommodate others,
might experience greater joy and contentment as you are consistently surrounded by people who celebrate you, and
might experience more creativity and genius as a result of bringing your full self to every situation.
Regardless of the emotions you experience, removing people who tolerate you to create room for people who celebrate you is worth the journey. Become comfortable with being accepted for you. Again, celebration does not mean that you are without faults and areas for improvement.
You are enough. Push yourself to be a better you -- not because you are insufficient but because you deserve to be the very best that you can be!